Finding Balance Between Love for Children and Self-Care

This morning, as I took Cass to the bank to open a savings account designed for teenagers under 18 (comes with a 2.5% interest rate until she turns 18YO, a debit-cum-ATM card, and a savings account passbook), we experienced an unexpected moment of reflection. We were early, arriving just minutes before the doors opened, and found ourselves standing in line behind an elderly man and a woman, both in their seventies. The wait would become a chance encounter that reminded me of the delicate balance between loving our children and ensuring we love ourselves too.

The man ahead of us struck up a conversation with me, the woman, and Cass, quickly delving into a sensitive topic: family relationships. He must have just had a big argument with his children with so much bottled-up emotions in him to the point that he let out so much frustration to strangers. He immediately shared openly that he had decided not to transfer his properties to his children and felt he did the right thing. His reason? A strained relationship that left him feeling underappreciated and perhaps even disrespected. “Whenever I scold them with a few words, they shoot back with five hundred words. I did not spend enough time with time when they were young” he remarked, sounding genuinely pained and frustrated. Although we didn’t pry, it was clear that he felt disappointed in the direction his relationship with his children had taken.

He shared memories of his own parents, who lived into their 90s, expressing that he missed them deeply. Losing them had thrown him into a two-year depression, he said, and he added with conviction that parents are unique in their unconditional love for their children. He emphasized that no matter what, our parents are the ones who love us the most. His words about respecting and appreciating parents while they are still alive resonated deeply, and he advised us never to overly coddle our children or make them feel entitled, or we risk facing disappointment later in life, like him.

Watching Cass listen to this elderly man’s story stirred up my own thoughts. I’ve always prioritized my daughters, trying to give them the best of what I have. However, this conversation brought home the idea that there needs to be a balance between providing for our children and preserving a sense of self-worth and independence. Loving our children doesn’t mean we need to forfeit our future security, financial freedom, or happiness. It’s essential to make choices that protect both our emotional and financial well-being, even as we do everything possible for our kids.

While I hope that my bond with my three girls remains strong, this encounter serves as a reminder to maintain boundaries. I hope our connection will only grow closer as they become adults, but I’ll also work toward ensuring my own well-being (mentally, physically, and financially), so I can continue to be there for them, lovingly and unconditionally, but also with a healthy balance.

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Y2K Baby Tees: The Cute Revival You Need in Your Wardrobe This Christmas

Baby tees were one of the most iconic trends of the 1990s and early 2000s and they have made a strong comeback. They are likely to be trending for quite a while judging from the scenes at departmental stores and online fashion stores.  At the home front, my middle daughter, the fashionista of the family, is still shopping for baby tees and cropped tank tops. Yours truly happens to have a handful of these super cute tees and tank tops too 😉

With the Y2K baby tees back in full swing, every girl needs this fashion staple in her wardrobe.  If you’re looking to shop for a cute Christmas baby tee for the year-end festivities, CherryKitten is the go-to online platform to find the best baby tees. From satirical quotes to funny graphic prints and holiday-themed styles, there’s surely a baby tee that you’ll love.  For the holiday season, there’s a new range of Christmas-themed baby tees that are playful, stylish, and cute, just perfect for the occasion.

When it comes to a tee that is both comfortable and stylish, Y2K baby tees fit the bill. These tees fit snugly while showing off some midriff and accentuate the wearer’s silhouette.  The baby tees on the market now come in an infinity of colors, text prints, graphic prints, designs, and themes, making them versatile fashion apparel for any occasion.

When you’re in the CherryKitten reviews section, you’ll read many rave reviews on their baby tees. Many satisfied customers commented that the tees are very stretchy and how they loved the quality and fit of the tees.  The reviews also highlighted how fast delivery was for their orders. You’ll be surprised that some of the customers are in their late fifties and they rocked in their CherryKitten baby tees.

If you’re not sure what to wear this holiday, why not add a touch of Y2K vibes to your holiday look? Pop over at CherryKitten Instagram for some inspiration and grab a couple of cute baby tees for a festive cheer.

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