While the number of unexpected death of patients with mental health issues increased by 20% in the last three years, a lot of people remain silent on their depression. Why? At first, let’s have a look at how we react to someone talking about his or her depression. If the person speaks calmly about his or her past experience of successful struggle with depression, we are close to applaud him or her. But we stop listening to someone who is in the state of depression, whose story is emotional and lacks coherence. So, it makes no surprise that people prefer to keep their depression to themselves, no matter how severe the consequences may be.
You May Not Know That You Are Depressed
Depression is not your typical guest who would kindly knock on your door and introduce itself. It gets into your life in a way that you won’t notice it until it’s too late.  First you get the feeling that everything in your life has lost its taste and scent. You lose appetite. Then you stop eating regularly, because who cares, the food is tasteless anyway.  Many people with depression report disturbance to their sleep patterns. Some find themselves sleeping too much due to constant fatigue, but wakefulness is more common.
The scariest point is that most of your friends won’t be a great help to you. You are most likely to crack jokes about your state and they will take it as nothing more than just a joke. Only few of them may try to tell you that it looks like that you are having some problems, but you won’t listen. As a result, you may end up in a mental health facility.
You Keep Silent Because No One Likes To Hear What You Have To Say
Depressed ones know that most of their friends wouldn’t like to hear their complaints about their state of mind. Depression often forces us to say strange things like “ I wish I was dead” or “ I wish I had cancer”, which a lot of people would consider to be scary.
Sooner or later suicide thoughts may develop, and it’s another topic that none of your friends and acquaintances would like to discuss with you. So, you remain silent, until your suicidal thoughts stop being just thoughts.
You Keep Silence For Dignity
Everybody knows that depression is something ugly and unattractive. Why talking about it? It’s almost the same as telling someone that you have shitted your pants, while this story may be much funnier than your story about your depression and your slowly declining mental health.
You bed sheets are rather grey than white, you apartment is a mess, and all you do is lying face down feeling that you’re vanishing. You may still not admit the fact that you are suffering from severe depression, but you know that you look and smell bad. That’s why you prefer to hide from your friends and loved ones.
Depressed people keep silent about their depression to save their dignity. And when you are feeling better, as depression has bright days from time to time, the last thing you would like to discuss with your friends is your problem.
Lack of interest and enjoyment
Anhedonia, as psychologists call it, is another very common symptom of depression. In this state you no longer get pleasure from things you once enjoyed, and struggle to make any kind of effort.
Anhedonia is a feeling of being listless, feeling totally flat, as if the world is colourless – everything is rubbish. This can extend to relationships, with the result that people with depression often become isolated.  People who are depressed tend to find a sanctuary. They don’t want to be around people, they don’t go out as much. They spend more time at home.
What To Do?
Silence is depression’s murder tool. When you keep silent, it has all the chances to take over you. Forget about dignity, forget about people around you being scared of your condition. Whenever you have a feeling that your life is flat and has no sense  – seek help.  Professional help may be your savior.  Thanks to our friends from Romance Compass for providing this article.
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