As the girls grow, I tend to be less uptight in their exam results. I used to have a hangup and obsession with test results, placing emphasis especially on Alycia as I know that she can be groomed to excel. Lately, I have learned to let go. I don’t revise with her anymore. She prefers to do exam revisions herself in the confines of her own bedroom. I only guide the two younger ones. Not getting an A does not upset me that much anymore, especially if I know that they have worked hard. But it’s a different reaction from me if they do not bother to study or shows a lackadaisical attitude academically and then produce crap to me after the exam! Yes, I can be a tiger mum too!
On Sunday, Alycia suddenly remembered that she had forgotten to inform me of something!
Alycia – mummy, would you believe it if I told you that I got no. 1 in class?
Me – really? Where’s your report card?
Alycia – my friends from xxx class (the top elite class) told me that their teacher told them that I am no. 1 and that I will join them in after-school tuition soon. My Science teacher also hinted something to me.
Me – OH!!
So I’ll see ** tap fingers on table **
Getting first in class is not everything, as with getting straight As. I think having a high score in emotional quotient (EQ) is much much more important for a person to achieve happiness and success in life, agree? I think Alycia has lots to learn in building her EQ.
Yesterday when receiving Cass from the school van, she was holding a bunch of test papers. The moment she alighted from the van, Cass excitedly told me that she scored 100% in her Math test! In fact, she scored As in all her test papers! Though thoroughly overjoyed over her achievement, I know that this is only her very first test and that her tests will only get harder in the exams to come. Furthermore, I know that Cass still needs LOTS and LOTS of drilling in her Chinese language to be able to survive in a Chinese school.
Anyway, I shall seize the pleasures of the moment and enjoy my daughters’ mini achievements and celebrate with them… with rewards for them of course 🙂
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I agree that EQ is important too. As well IQ tests are rather stilted and may not truly reflect one’s intelligence. And having a “high” I Q does not mean you will do well in school and many teachers are aware of that. And of course we know that kids who do well in secondary schools may not do well at college level as the style of learning has changed. The reverse is also true. I agree learning is different from studying. Much more important to learn and to apply what one has learned.
Very well said, Chris!