Day: March 29, 2015

Holding My Mind Ransom

Kids these days are super manipulative. With access to online social media platforms, the internet and the newspapers, my 12-year old knows more than I do sometimes. After all, she has more free time on hand to read during her leisure time whereas my free time is like just ten minutes a day – when I sit on the throne. And this is also  with the littlest one inside the same bathroom as me, to chat with me while she showers!

Anyway, I want to tell you how manipulative my 12-year old is each time I reprimand her for not putting enough time and effort to study.  With information that she absorbs from the newspapers and internet, she knows what kids are up to these days.  Each time I chide her off, she will say this to me… “mummy, if you want me to study so hard, later I will go crazy and depressed. And then I will jump off a building!”   This is definitely a case of a child verbally holding her parent’s mind  ransom! This makes me want to retort and say “go jump off right now!” Of course I did not say this, so as not to make myself so childish and to really challenge a tween with raging hormones to really do it. This girl is pretty reticent but when she talks, she can be really good with her words and sometimes corners me.   If you hear such words coming out from the mouth of your tween, what would you do and say?

 

 

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Dealing with Reality

When death occurs, it can be challenging for loved ones and family members to function properly. There is a natural time of grief that is necessary and is quite healthy. At the same time, various items must be  addressed after the death of a loved one occurs.

Resting Place Options
After the death of a loved one, it is important to have professionals take care of the body in a dignified way. A funeral home is a popular way to take care of necessary details. A burial site, the type of coffin, a particular set of clothes and other miscellaneous items must be addressed, and a funeral home can take care of such details in a respectful way. Another way that is becoming increasingly popular is for people to have their loved one cremated instead of buried. Some people may initially believe that cremations are extremely expensive. That is not the case at all. There are plenty of affordable cremations that are intended to fit into many budgets that are offered by professionals. When a family receives the ashes, they are free to scatter the ashes on a field or lake. Some prefer to keep the ashes on a mantle. Whatever the case is, families have options to consider.

Having a Brief Service
It can be difficult for people to mourn over the loss of an individual. People tend to remain stoic and calloused as they guard their emotions and feelings. However, these same people are probably deeply grieving on the inside. There may be resistance to having a funeral, but a brief service can bring closure that is deeply needed. A pastor or priest can be quite helpful in providing solid answers and suggestions to families who are thinking about having a brief service or wondering about the healing process. In addition to this, churches and congregations are often willing to provide a light lunch after a service. A luncheon can provide people the opportunity they need to talk about the deceased individual without having to rush or feel embarrassed. Experiences like these can go a long way in providing healing and closure to people who are mourning death.

When a loved one dies, it is never easy. There are helps that are available that can be very beneficial. After all, the focus in the aftermath is primarily helping people deal with the new reality.

 

 

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