A few days ago, I was stumped when Alycia said this to me the moment she sat down at the dining table to start eating her lunch.
“mummy, can you please not say anything and let me eat in peace? Don’t say anything from now until after my nap ok?“ I asked her if I was “destroying her peace” when I talk to her and she felt bad and smiled. I was really disappointed. I know she does not like me to ask her what she did in school for I will always advice her not to buy unnecessary things from the book shop and junk food from the canteen. I know that she also does not like me to ask her how she fared in her spelling, ejaan and ting xie. She has always been doing pretty well academically but at times, she will show me some shocking marks when she had forgotten to practice her weekly language tests. In another scenario last week, she said the same heart-wrenching words to me. That night, Alycia, Sherilyn and daddy went to Tony Roma’s to have supper while Baby, the helper and I went groceries shopping at Jusco. When I joined them at Tony Roma’s after shopping, Alycia said this to me “mummy, we were all enjoying ourselves until you came!”. I had to ask her again what she had said as I just did not believe what I had heard. I felt like I had been slapped and jilted by someone I love very much. I know that she does not like me to ask her if she has drank enough water, if she has eaten any deep fried food, if she has asked her daddy (the ever yes man who would rarely say NO to his angels’ whims and fancies) to buy them everything under the sky, etc. Alycia just does not like her mummy to ‘rob’ a piece of her happiness and time of her life just when she is enjoying them. But being a mother, of course I am concerned. If I do not care and allowed her to do as she wishes and eat as she wishes, she may land herself in some trouble and fall ill frequently. She was once the weakest 3YO and 4YO I had ever seen. Perhaps she treats those advices as nags. If so, then she is so going to hate me infinitely as she is so going to get a piece of my mind to ‘destroy her peace’ as she goes through each different phase of her life. Perhaps this is pay-back time for me?
Ironically, rascal #2 who often clashes with me will always give me a warm and tight hug and scream “MUMMY” to welcome me each time we meet after a period of ‘separation’ or say good-bye. Alycia hardly does that to me, though I don’t scold her as much as Sherilyn. Last night, the hubs and I brought only Baby to Ikea as I had to claim my RM150 cash voucher before it expires in a day. Alycia and Sherilyn could not follow us as they have to get up very early for school today. When we were leaving the house, Sherilyn gave me a big hug and said some sweet nice things to me, which always melts my heart. But Alycia never does that to me. I am really dumb-founded by these opposite reactions I get from Alycia and Sherilyn. Does anyone have kids who stump you like this too? I feel lost now. Do I remain quiet and don’t say anything negative to my super sensitive Alycia to gain her ‘likes’ ? This girl can get teary-eyed very easily and I don’t even have to raise my voice to make her eyes teary! With Sherilyn, she is the exact opposite. Even with whips that leave marks on her hands, she would not cry at times but she forgets and forgives very easily and is more generous with her hugs with me. She is more open and the least sensitive to comments and critics about her.
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