If you ask me if I had encountered any sex predator in my life, the answer is a big YES. But thank God, I was under his watchful eyes and was spared from physical harm. When I first came to the big city to study 2 decades ago, I shared a rented room with a college mate. We had to take the public bus to college every morning. The distance from our rented room to the bus stand was about 15 minutes’ walk. We had to pass by quiet alleys and a playground. I remember very vividly that I was stalked by this man on a motorcycle several times who would try to show off his Mr Hideous to me. There was also this teenage boy who would wait for me at the balcony of his parents’ double story house each morning and also tried to show me his Mr Hideous. I always looked away and ignored his presence.
My bus rides then were very eventful. My worst encounter was when I was seated with a pervert in the bus. I remember the bus was really packed on that day and I was very happy that I managed to grab a seat. About 15 minutes into the journey, I sensed something amiss and turned my head to a man seated next to me. To my horror, I saw the most hideous thing in my life! He had exposed himself in broad daylight in front of a bus packed with people! I was disgusted and in shock and left the seat immediately.
I had wanted to move out from the rented place as soon as possible but kept procrastinating. The last straw that made me move my butt was when my handbag was snatched by a man on a motorcycle one morning when I walked to the bus stand. Thank God again that I was spared from serious injuries, though I had slight scratches on my hand. At one point, during my many encounters with perverts, I told my room mate that I wanted to learn martial arts as a self-defense!
Alycia has been telling me that she wants to learn karate or martial arts. My answer would be a yes to her and I intend to start her next year. I think it’s a good idea to enroll your child into a self-defense class. You never know when she/he will need it to safe her own life or that of someone else.
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Yeah I saw the same thing a pervert guy exposing his Mr H too in the public bus. Fortunately the bus conductor which I know move to the back and chat with me. The pervert guy kept back his thing.
Your Alycia is really interested in something boyish, but it is definitely a good idea.
i think nearly every women you know has encountered at least one perverted incident before in their lives. like you, i also have encountered many times and i realized now, that it’s mostly young girls that will encounter this. all my mine was when i was in school. damn gross and now i know why we are so vulnerable coz we were not taught how to defend ourselves. having girls now, i will definitely teach them how to defend themselves once they know how to learn about these things.
Here’s how I handled it..happened in PJ eons ago when I joined my aunt for a walk at 6am. A sicko came to expose himself right in front of us.. I looked down at it, said “Is that all??”. He quickly “withdrew” and fled! Coward! Then when I was living in HK, this guy, whether intentional or not, had shorts on and his weewee was poking out. I was sitting directly across him on the subway. I made sure I got eye contact, then looked down to there, and winked. He knew! He got off at the next stop!
Listen, all these perverts want a reaction from a vulnerable female…so, give them what they don’t want…attention, and criticism. So, on the bus, I’d say loudly…”OMG..Look at that! So tiny! Where the hell is the rest of it?? Did u have an accident when u were little??!!”. Well, u get the gist…
I see weewee’s everday at work and most ppl are kinda embarrassed or try to cover up…I always say “I’ve seen them all, and unless u have something spectacular, I’m not easily impressed!”. Sets the guys at ease!