I’m in no mood to blog today coz I’m having a heavy pounding head and feeling a tad dizzy. All these are symptoms of steresss! Stress over petty things – my maid, my kids, etc. The sight and sounds of my maid ‘step-mothering’ and tongue lashing my kids, the sounds of my kids retaliating when my maid scolds them (which drives me nuts), the shrieks from Baby, the whining from #2, etc, etc. etc …. and when #2 scribbled on her Mandarin homework (AGAIN) with color pencil despite strict warning from me not to, I blew my top. I gave her a good whipping and then she turned angelic after crying! She obediently did all the work that I gave her consisting of writing suku kata and some simple Math additions.
I’m also in a dilemma – whether to get another maid (which is an expensive bet) or just forget about stay-in maids once and for all. Should I just get part-time maids and send #2 to daycare instead? Sigh… too much pondering to do. I think about the future and all the ‘what ifs’ too much, so much that I feel I’m trapped in my own deadlock.
My mil has just flown off to Hong Kong today. Now I have one less helper at home…. which means more steressss for me. I’m thinking of sending #2 to daycare next week coz I can’t manage her. She’s just too mischievous, too wilful and has too many tricks up her sleeve. Just last night, she gave the hubs and I a big headache when she poured the entire bottle of my expensive Crabtree and Evelyn talcum powder in the bathroom and caused a BIG, BIG powdery mess. I had stepped into the room to ask the gals to give me a good back massage for my backache but I ended up washing the bathroom floor. Me, the hubs and the maid spent almost an hour washing the bathroom floor and wiping the bathroom cabinet, doors and counter top which were all covered with powder. She also peeled off the new bathroom stickers (which are like sticky jelly) and tossed them high up and made those sticky jelly stickers stick on the ceiling!!! I shall blog about these 2 incidents next.
Sometimes I wish I can just close both eyes to all the things surrounding me that bother me and stay cool. I always remind myself not to sweat over the small stuff. This way, I don’t have to think too much and I will have less steresssss. Many of my friends can just leave their maids to manage the entire household including the kids whilst they are at work. I know I can never be in their state. I worry too much.
I have lots more to rant and rave but I guess I’ll just stop here and mind the gals now.
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poor thing….relax my dear! U r the best! Cool down and think of the sweet side of ur lovely daughters….
Relax….calm down…..I always complain about my housework, my girl being super clingy and all….but you have 3 girls…..I really salute you for being able to put up with all that. You are a super Mommy!!
I am using a nanny and a part time maid. Maybe you should think about it. Day care is also good for your gals. At least you have some time off.
hey, take it easy. it’s good to send Sher to the daycare and get a temp maid to clean your home. no need for a full-time maid if she gives you high blood pressure all the time 🙂
Oh dear Oh dear….shireen..i used to have a maid too but everyone at home were never happy and I have to keep scolding my maid and it pushes up my blood level too. in the end, we sent her back after 9 mths. now i have part time cleaner that come once a week. as for you, why don’t you consider taking day time nanny to help out with the kid and part time cleaner too.
I have 3 kids too.. my 2nd one during his years as your 2nd was also more active than the 1st and 3rd.. so much so, my hubby has laid some favoritism on his own kids. Things were in a limbo then.. each time we went out, he said better let no. 2 stayed at home or prefer not to go at all… so imagine the scenario then.. well, slowly slowly, patience prevails.. as he grows, the character started to change…and now he is a fine young man… so… moral of the story… WE MUMS JUST HAVE TO PERSEVERE… hahhaa… no other way.. keep puffing, they grow up fast…
Hope you are resting good, take care…
‘step-mothering’ that’s a good word..
think of what you can handle and what you can’t.
you can send maid off but you definitely need a part time. if you intend to get them from agencies, make sure it’s the same maid, every day , once they are familiar with your home , it’s easier and faster to get things done.
Meanwhile, i pity your predicament with Sher’s mischief but I can’t help laughing too. If it was me, I’ll give my girl a good whacking too.
take care ya !
Decisions, decisions. Hope everyone will be happy with the new arrangements. At the meantime, breathe in, breathe out. 🙂
I can understand ur feeling when our kids are getting crancky and fussy…..we are just like goin to explode out. Maybe you can consider send 2nd kid to nursery temporary or ask some close relatives to help u up.
Quote: “peeled off the new bathroom stickers (which are like sticky jelly) and tossed them high up and made those sticky jelly stickers stick on the ceiling”
WAHAHAHA!!!!!…i dono whether to laugh at yur no2 or pity this poor mummy. how can she ever think of such way to stick those things on the ceiling??? Sherilyn o Sherilyn :0
I understand what you’re going thru. But with 3 girls, I think you are a super mom. I have to children.
At one point, when I was still working, and my girl was still an infant, I hired a second maid. That made things WORSE! We sent the second maid back after 9 month (and after spending so much money). Perhaps sending your #2 to daycare is a good idea, since it will help to temper her wilfulness and also to use up her energy so she will be ready for quite activity and sleep when she gets home.
i think sending sher to a daycare wud be ok? at least u can breath a little, while caring for lil Cass? ur one supermom u know, duno how u do it, but ur doin great, if i were u, i think i already siao 🙂
poor girl…. i think mummy will never stop thinking about their children…. its reli not easy to b mummy but i think sending sher to daycare might b a good choice, mayb u shld reli try tat out as tis might relieve ur stress abit
Take it easy, Shireen. It might be worthwhile exploring daycare for Sher. I’m not familiar with the system in Msia but is it possible to go for 2-3 days? That way, it’ll give you a break and Sherilyn a chance to play with others, and learn as well. Sometimes, children grow up quickly when they mix with other children.
sending Sher to a daycare is a good idea. Probably, she is too bored at home, that why she does this mischief.
On maid, getting a temp maid twice a week to clean your apartment should be suffice right? With a new maid, your blood pressure might get sky rocket.
You are going great, Shireen. Just hang in there.
daycare idea is good. but what psychological impact will it have on sherilyn re her place in the family? do consider sending BOTH elder gals to daycare for maybe just 2 days a week to begin with. This can let you recharge your energy levels instead of non-stop never-ending stress 24/7.
I think sher’s acts aren’t intentional naughty acts. Rather she has a high level of curiosity which she can’t repress. You might need expert help to allow her develop her creativity (and restlessness?) yet not harm your relationship with her.
I tell ya, there are some days I sooo regret having a kid! its that stressful! And one thing for sure, come Jan, I am packing him off to pre-school! Else, both my mom & my blood pressure go up for nothing man. Not worth it.
ooh dear…u really sounded ‘stress’, poor mommy.
i too seconded the idea of sending the elder girls to either 1/2 day nursery or other classes of their interest (eg. art craft, grammar, maths etc). which would then give u some privacy in handling bb & blog etc while the elder girls benefited from the extra classes.
as for maid, get a more reliable agency that provides u the same maid (better if not-indon) 2 times or > a week to handle the house chores. i tried http://www.parttimemaid.com/top.html & quite satisfied with them. good luck in yr decision making 😀
I’ve been following yr blog for sometime and read that you have maid problems. why don’t u try out the agency which offers “ready for interview maids”. The maids came in under social visa and you can try them out for 1 mth, if ok then only take them permanently. They offer maids from Indo, Cambodia, Vietnam and Philipines…I hv indo maids before, but decided to try cambodian now, and she turned out to be very hardworking, proactive and most importantly very well mannered. The only negetive side is the level of communication-can only speak very basic english. If u r interested just email me. p.s. i m not an agent just a satisfied employer.
Poor thing. I guess I would send Sher to daycare if I were in your situation. Hopefully she can behave better after that. A mom send her son to my girl daycare too. Not because no one tc him at home, but to train him to be more discipline.
haiyaaa, sowee u’re going thru all these, i’m not in my best mood too lately with the maid problem. My once efficient maid has decided once again to be mulut celupar, talking back and acting her own way. Things done daily can suddenly do different, i also pening. Send her back aft 2yo contract also i jialak… but if u do plan to rid your stay in, get a regular part timer. In the meantime, hang in there. If u send sher to daycare, pls make sure she understands, and not that u don love her and picking her out.
Shireen, maybe you want to consider Vietnam maid or experience cambo maid? *touch wood* my current cambo maid i’m quite happy with her, although she is slow in doing things but at least all things she do, after my kids play in the play room mess the place..she keep the toys and mop the floor everyday, which my perious one doesn’t do at all. She worked in thailand for 4 years, she got experience, at least she know what to do, only thing is still communication a bit down, always need to use body and hand sign.
Another way is maybe can sent both the girls to day care after school? Then back in the evening?
Take care Shireen.
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