I was just telling my mum that I really can’t cope with 3 kids. I am putting up a white flag!  Baby C is taking up too much of my time. In fact, most of my time is spent caring for her – feeding her meds, supplements, preparing her meals and feeding her, nursing her, collecting her pee to be sent to the lab for test, washing her bum as the diaper area has to be kept almost sterile all the time, endless hospital trips to see our doctors, etc. I feel extremely bad and guilty that I am unable to spend more time with Alycia and Sherilyn. Consequently, they are bored to the core, especially during the school holidays and Sherilyn has been up to mischief and rebel most of the time. I am constantly yelling at her over the slightest things and it’s really bad for her and for me. I even dragged her out of the house for a few seconds the other day when she kept testing my patience and kept rebelling against me. Even after being dragged out of the house, she was still not remorseful and kept saying nasty things to me. I feel really guilty and bad thinking of what I had been saying and doing to her.
I get crabby easily lately. I feel there’s just too much for me to shoulder – a high-need, high-maintenance baby with Kidney Reflux who doesn’t seem to get better and 2 toddlers who are constantly challenging me mentally and physically. Right now, I am very tempted to send Sherilyn to day care.  Perhaps this little social butterfly will be happier at day care with so many friends to play with and activities lined up for her. Moreover, the teachers can discipline her. I can stop yelling at her and absence will also make the heart grow fonder. My mum is supportive of my decision as she knows I need the space to stay sane.  What do you all think?
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I think u HAVE to send her to daycare…u aren’t supermum, and please don’t even try! I honestly think she’ll have more fun in daycare and u’ll get a slight break and most importantly, u get to keep your sanity! If there is anyone out there who says u are aren’t being the perfect mum staying at home with 3 kids, u tell him/her to take a hike!(was going to say something ruder but afraid u won’t print it!)
Love the pics of C on the floor…adorable!
I also think sending her to daycare is the best option. She can make friends and learn new things too.
i m really salute u on taking k 3 girl at a time, and with bb C was not well sometime.
I m agreed with ur decision to send Sherilyn to day care…. i think she will be more happy to get and play along with others kids !!!!
U really need sometime for yourself !!
not a bad idea…for half a day
A daycare is not necessarily such a bad thing afterall. Although you would probably need to put it in a good light for Sherilyn (like she’ll have more friends to play with, less boring than being at home) less she thinks you are “punishing” her by sending her away.
Hope you get a good daycare center and work things out. Really I can see how tension your day is. I hope Sher will love the daycare.
well, no harm giving it a try… since nobody can guaranty whether she will like it there or not.. đ you have to give each other a chance
Will Sher think tat how come cheh cheh can stay at home during school holidays? Is she a sibling jealous type?
If no, then its perfectly good to send her to day care since she will be more discipline and daily routine is good for her since she is so active. Or else you might want to consider sending Sher & Aly together to day care so she won’t felt left out.
i think she wud njoy daycare, with more kids to play around with, activities & such đ
wah…i’m dying to send my no2. for his kinder! Unfortunately for 3 year old, they only allow max 2days. If you can…. it is a good idea. I would certainly do that..just to keep her occupied and you less stressed with her antics! What about Alycia?
Hope you get a good day care for her. Yeah you deserve a break too.
oh I thought she’s already going to the kindy? daycare means after her morning class at the kindy? i think she would enjoy it đ
You can give it a try first. I think Sher will have no problem going to the daycare and mixing with other kids since she’s so sociable. But she may think why she’s going there alone and not with her cheh cheh.
me handling 2 girls already tak-boleh-tahan! Sending Sher to day care should be a good solution!
it’s good to send Sher to the day care at the same time she can mingle around with friends and disciplined by the teacher.however, how will she thinks if she knows that Ally will be staying at home?will she jealous and feeling been ignore?
my brother who has 3 kids. the second one is the most mischievous.he always feel been neglected and trying to do whatever things to get my sil’s attention. all of us in the family pity of him despite he’s so playful. i wish you make the right decision.
I think you should give it a try and see how it works out.
I think it’s not a bad idea. You need a break too. Sherilyn probably will be to happy to be doing something. Hopefully it will work out for you.
Hearing what you are going thru, I think I will have the same problem too handling 3 kids when my little is born.
i understand ur situation, with my hse under reno now, i cant bring kids anywhere and they always stay at home with me. kids are just being active and ur sherilyn is one of them and look at brighter side, would u prefer to see ur child sitting on the sofa and drool whole day? try to be patient and see what happens when school starts. maybe its temp only since its school hol now. maybe can send her to extra curiculum like MA, Kumon,art class, etc after school so u get more time for urself. how abt hiring another maid to help u out? i personally feel that it defeat the purpose of being a SAHM if u send her to day care. i see day care as parents are working and cant take care of their child at home. but u can give it a try which is no harm. but if u send, better send both girls instead or else she will be left out and u know la ,middle child is diff a bit. most of all, try to calm down and be patient a bit, coz u dont want to get thyroid like me. can u leave the house for say about 2 hrs to take a breather once in a while? can ask hub to help u?
You can most certainly try that, for a start. I know how it must feel, … hopefully things will get more stable soon, and you can have some me time to relax and unwind (somewhat). hang in there…
i handle a kid also tension, don’t say u have to handle 3 kids. but things will back to normal once ur MIL back from holidays. Perhaps you really have to think to send her to day care.
Day care could be a good place to discipline her……however, she will definitely question why is she being sent away alone and not with Alycia cheh cheh. After all, both gals are so close to each other. She might resent your decision when she is older too. 2nd child is always more rebellious and attention-seeking. I agree with what Wen says as well, we shd be thankful that our kids are healthy and active. I was just lamenting the other day that i dun have enough rest coz baby is so active and refuses to sleep during the day. Then i got news that one of my frens in S’pore just delivered her baby who is now in ICU on life support machine. Tears came to my eyes and I chided myself for complaining that my boy is too active. But u definitely need help, would ur mom be able to come down and help when mil is away?
I’m sending all my 4 kids to nursery & after school daycare. That doesnt mean they love me less or i love them less. In fact we are closer still & they enjoy making friends & learning new stuff …compared to when the “betrayor’maid was around..they only stuck to that idiot box.
Be fair to yourself & to your kids..give yourself space to continue being the great mummy that u r. No nid to feel guilty. Go for it! Take care.
Thanks peeps for all the advice and suggestions. I roughly know what to do now. You guys are really great!
i think not a bad idea. đ
do what u think best to urself đ listen to ur heat đ
sorry, heat= heart
give it a try..if not u won’t know if it will work đ
My opinion is send Alycia & Sher together. I just afraid Sher will get the feeling that she been send a way even though the real reason/intention is not like that.
excellent idea! New environment with opportunity for social interaction and creativity should help Sher expend her energy reserves which is being curbed and restrained at home. Just be sure NOT to make it sound or look like she’s being disciplined or sent away for being hyperactive at home!
yeah i think its a good idea to give it a try… prob everyone would b happier